So I was just flicking through The Thought Catalogue- a blog I follow here on wordpress and I cam across this article …
“An Open Letter To Men-Children, From A Woman In Her 20s
1. Wear real clothes. Men don’t go to work in a hoodie or jeans. In fact, hoodie isn’t even registered as a word in Word. When you were chilling in the back of a lecture hall stalking your ex-girlfriend instead of listening to the professor, that was acceptable. We work now though, and whether or not you like it, the world, your potential employers and women will all assess you based on your appearance. When you wear clothing that is appropriate and respectable, you look like someone who actually has their shit together. That’s sexy.
My issues with this: My boyfriend works in a kitchen so therefore spends the vast majority of time wearing black trousers and chefs whites. He’s hardly gonna put on his best suit jacket over the top just to go from the house to the car and then from the car into work, is he. And when he’s not at work, that’s his chilling time so he can wear what the fuck he wants.
2. Stop constantly swearing. Now, don’t think I’m saying that all you need to be a man is the ability to rock a charcoal grey three- piece suit. Sure, Don Draper looks like sex incarnate in his suit, but the guy’s a total ass (do you really need to cheat on your wives that much, Don? Let’s class it up). The way you speak is just as important as the way you look. When you look like Draper but swear like Chris Rock, there’s a massive disconnect that can’t be fixed. Not only does constantly swearing make you sound uneducated, it makes you sound like a pissed off frat boy who’s parents cut off his beer fund. Once you visually posses class, you need to sound like class too.
My issue with this: Well for starters, I swear more than my boyfriend so I couldn’t tell him off for dropping a few expletives in. And I’m sorry but well have you hard of freedom of speech? If it’s not hurting or affecting anyone, who cares if he swears like a navvy.
3. Wear a watch. Real men are on time. This includes being on time for work, for appointments and for dinner. I’m sure as hell not content with being made to wait. I’m your priority, and if you never keep me waiting, the love and attention will be equally reciprocated. Plus, employers notice this, and let’s be honest, a guy with a thick band watch is just sexy.
My issue with this: As just mentioned my boyfriend is a chef and for hygiene reasons he isn’t allowed to wear things on his wrist. Yet he still keeps time exceptionally well, and is rarely late picking me up.
4. Find an intelligent, strong woman with class. We exist, but we have standards. So if you’re almost thirty and choose to spend your weekends at house parties with 23-year-old girls (notice the new verbiage), you are no better than them. Don’t complain about how stupid and immature girls are when you just keep looking for a woman at a sorority party. We’re not there.Your partner is one of the biggest reflections of yourself that you project to the world; consequently, if you want to be perceived as an adult man who knows who he is, possess self-confidence and maturity, find a woman who has the same.
My issue with this: No, find a woman you love. If she happens to be strong, and independent and all that shit, isn’t it great. If she isn’t , that’s great too because everyone as different, as long as you love her I don’t see why who she is matters.
5. Grow up and get out. Men-Children, any woman with even a paramecium’s scope of intelligence is not going to go out with a 28-year-old who still lives at home. The only exception to this is still being in school – which means you’re becoming a doctor, a PhD candidate or maybe a lawyer. You shouldn’t STILL be in school by 28 just because you don’t want to grow up. You might drive a great car, have a great job and as a bonus be attractive and funny, but if your mom still washes your underwear we’re out. And no, you are not the exception to the rule in this case. Get over it.
My issue with this: This is 2013, we’re in a triple dip recession, house prices whilst dropping are still unaffordable as the price of everything else is rising and we’re all jobless and on benefits. You still live at home with your mum? Ok maybe she shouldn’t still be doing ALL your washing and cleaning, but you know what this is the time we’re living in, people are having to move back in with their parents because we can’t afford to live otherwise.
Is this easier said than done? Absolutely, but to all the dear men-children of my generation, we as women are graduating at higher rates than you, pursuing more avenues of education and generally don’t need you anymore.
We want you, however, but for us women who are worth having, you gentlemen better be worth our time. <—And this? I would consider myself and many people I know a woman worth having. Are you saying that the bloke you have just described as being completely wrong for you, is therefore only good enough for those girls who you also deem immature?
An intelligent, confident and classy woman in her 20s <—And this? She’s pretty damn exist and wrong, I am doubting this intellignece